One of my clients was sharing with me the Three H’s—to be heard, helped, or hugged. I thought this was a nice, succinct way to...
18.062026May 4, 2026
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11.062026May 4, 2026
Thirty Second Pause
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Anger, Behavior Change, Emotional Restraint
The primary issue for one of my couples was the husband’s lack of emotional restraint. Despite making progress, the husband continued to have explosive episodes...
04.062026May 4, 2026
Advanced Lessons
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication Skills, Practice, Setbacks
A couple I saw years ago returned to couples counseling. They had made tremendous progress, but wanted to address the occasional skirmishes that arose. The...
28.052026May 4, 2026
Impact Statements
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Criticism, Feedback, Responsiveness
When conversations get off track, skilled couples can bring them back. A couple does this by giving effective feedback and having their partner be responsive...
21.052026May 4, 2026
Monumental Changes
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Behavior Change, Control, Mistreatment
In a couples counseling session, Sarah described losing herself in the marriage. She found her husband, Robert, controlling, and was losing her sense of self...
14.052026May 4, 2026
Less Annoyed and Annoying
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Behavior Change, Communication, Reactivity
As I was helping a couple process a negative interaction, the husband said he could work on his delivery and his reaction. He said he...
07.052026May 4, 2026
It’s Not What You Say; It’s How You Say It
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Respect, Responses
It’s not what you say; it’s how you say it. A couple in their early thirties was having this discussion. They referred to “what” as...
29.042026January 14, 2026
Do it Differently
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Accountability, Behavior Change, Growth Mindset
I recently started working with a couple in their seventies who were having significant conflict. After reading about successful couples, the wife said, “I can...
22.042026January 14, 2026
Keep Small Things Small
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Escalation, Parenting, Recurring Patterns
I was working with a couple in their early forties when the husband seemed annoyed that we were dealing with small issues in couples counseling....
15.042026January 14, 2026
Benefit of the Doubt
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Accountability, Criticism, Trust
The husband of a couple I see wants his wife to give him the benefit of the doubt. The husband has good intentions and doesn’t...