I was working with a couple in their early forties when the husband seemed annoyed that we were dealing with small issues in couples counseling. The wife said, “Small things can be large.” 

Their relationship themes focused primarily on co-parenting and chores. However, these themes showed up in small ways, such as buying candy for the kids or picking them up. The couple struggled when small things became significant issues. The wife was relieved that they were now managing small issues without letting them escalate into larger ones. As another couple once told me, “We’re trying to keep small things small.”