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01.102024September 12, 2024
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17.092024September 12, 2024
Imposed Perfectionism
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Criticism, Judgement, Perfectionism, Truth
Perfectionism is not a problem in itself. If someone holds high standards for themselves, that is their prerogative. However, if they impose those high standards...
12.092024September 12, 2024
What Works for Me
If you don’t like what your partner is saying or how they are saying it, many individuals criticize their partner or tell them what they...
25.062024June 24, 2024
Being Seen & Heard
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage CounselingTags Infidelity, Loneliness, Priorities
While marriage counseling with Todd and Deb initially focused on Deb’s infidelity, they gradually widened the lens to work on their marriage. Deb spoke of...
12.062024April 25, 2024
Neutrality
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Couples Counseling, Neutrality
If a couple is seeking counseling, one essential quality to look for in a couple’s therapist is neutrality. That is, neither partner feels that the...
05.062024April 25, 2024
Best Thing We’ve Ever Done
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Mental Abuse, Negativity, Resentment, Sarcasm, Withdrawal
Andrea and Mark have been married for four decades and report their relationship was sometimes “horrible.” Andrea resented being emotionally treated like a punching bag....
29.052024April 25, 2024
Master Healthy Communication
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Couples Counseling, Dismissive, Emotional Support
Rachel is looking for emotional support from her sometimes dismissive husband, Rob. Rob tended to say, “You’re fine,” when she shared something emotionally upsetting. She...
08.052024April 25, 2024
Scorecards
Tasks in a relationship don’t have to be equal; they just need to be fair. Scorecards are used when a couple tries to prove they...
01.052024April 25, 2024
Needs & Impact
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage CounselingTags Assumptions, Communication, Expectations, Needs
Erin and Jeff had two young children and were frequently in conflict. Now a stay-at-home mother, Erin expected Jeff to know what she needed. For...
14.022024December 15, 2023
No Recourse to Clarity
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Clarity, Counseling Sessions, Couples Counseling
I was now meeting with Paul and Jessica every 3 months and in their last session, Paul was reflecting on what they were doing differently....