A husband and wife were driving to the store to purchase a new washer. Their current washer was leaking water on the tile floor. Knowing...
25.032020February 3, 2020
Archive for category: Couples Counseling
18.032020February 3, 2020
Insanity
Insanity is defined as doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result. But somehow, many couples manage to do just...
04.032020February 3, 2020
Dr. Rein Wouldn’t Approve
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Repairs
I started working with Carol and Jack four months ago. Despite being married three decades, they were separated when I started working with them. They...
26.022020February 3, 2020
Be Amazing
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Code Words, Listening
Jean talked about her struggles at work and Frank couldn’t help giving advice. Jean expressed previously that she just wants to share her story, but...
29.012020January 23, 2020
Words Matter
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Communication Sequences
Couples have incidents and issues that they need to work through. Each time an incident or issue is unresolved, it builds up. It’s like dropping...
23.012020January 23, 2020
Difficult Conversations
Some conversations are more difficult than others. One of the easier conversations for couples to have is stress-reducing conversations. These are when couples talk to...
15.012020September 9, 2019
Repairs
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Repairs, Responses
Dr. John Gottman’s research demonstrates the importance of not attacking or being defensive. This can prevent conflict from occurring in the first place. However, when...
08.012020September 9, 2019
Are We Incompatible?
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Compatibility, Fighting
Eric & Meg got into a big fight over something small when Eric questioned whether he and Meg were compatible. They were having conflict with...
18.122019September 5, 2019
Create Connection
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Connection, Friendship, Intimacy, Sharing
There are three primary ways couples connect with one another: sharing, doing, and being. Sharing can range from talking about one’s day, sharing stressful situations,...
11.122019September 5, 2019
Learning From a Debacle
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Accusations, Defensiveness, Escalation
I hadn’t seen Tim and Maura for a while, but they talked about how much progress they were making. Then Tim brought up a time...