I was talking with a colleague with whom I share a case (she sees the wife individually) and she talked about her approach to couples...
27.112019September 5, 2019
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06.112019September 5, 2019
Why Are You Rhetorical?
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Language
Jan just got back from a week-long conference and found Jeff in the garage. Jeff seemed aggravated and Jan said, “What’s the matter with you?”...
23.102019September 4, 2019
Possibility
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Language, Subtleties
I was talking with a couple about the importance of paying attention to the subtlety of language and the husband said, “I’m not skilled at...
12.062019April 3, 2019
Why
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Criticism, Lead-In Phrases
I was recently at a presentation by the Samaritans on suicide prevention. They said their volunteers are taught not to ask “why” questions, saying that...
02.012019December 13, 2018
I’ve Changed!
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Change, Communication, Language
Change is a crucial component of couples work. Couples counseling encourages partners to talk about what’s not working, so each person can change for the...
13.122018December 13, 2018
Off to a Great Start
Claire and Greg were struggling. Married 17 years, their relationship was punctuated by arguments and cool silence. Greg escaped into his beer and sports on...
21.112018December 13, 2018
Flammable Conversations
Kent realized the grill was low on propane gas, so he brought the propane canister from the shed into the house and put in at...
31.102018December 13, 2018
I Was Proud of Us
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Conversation
As Laura and Steve were progressing in couples therapy, Laura began our next session saying, “I was proud of us. We had a conversation.” This...
29.082018December 4, 2018
You Know That
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Emotional Connection
Kevin and Shauna have been dating about 4 years and Shauna was wondering about the future of their relationship. Shauna, an art teacher, is emotional,...
18.072018December 4, 2018
What I Meant to Say
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Conversation Stoppers, Repeat Conversations
It’s not unusual for a couple to be talking about a previous conversation and a partner remembers the discussion differently. The tendency is for the...