As I was helping a couple process a negative interaction, the husband said he could work on his delivery and his reaction. He said he...
Archive for tag: Communication
It’s Not What You Say; It’s How You Say It
It’s not what you say; it’s how you say it. A couple in their early thirties was having this discussion. They referred to “what” as...
Coaching Success
Virtually all professional athletes have coaches, whether in team or individual sports. Why can’t couples have the same? They can. Ultimately, a competent couples therapist...
Hard Conversations
Successful couples can have hard conversations. These are the discussions that couples need to have to address issues and improve their relationship. The challenge is...
Different Conversations
I watched a movie last night that featured a couple with a lovely relationship. The husband’s son from a previous relationship spent the summer with...
What Would Work For Me…
When I observe couples interacting in counseling, one of my favorite statements is, “What would work for me…” What I love about this statement is...
Direct Dialogue
A measure of success in couples counseling is a couple’s ability to talk directly to each other about their relationship. This is what differentiates successful...
Harmonious Differences
Differences don’t need to be problematic in relationships, since all relationships have differences. The issue is how couples manage these differences. Ideally, couples have respectful...
Damaged?
Phil told me that he and Elyse had a damaged relationship. At home, the language was inflammatory, and conversations were futile. In couples counseling, they...
Translations
In couples counseling, couples primarily talk directly to each other. However, sometimes, an individual wants to express something to their partner but doesn’t know how...