When I ask couples what they find attractive about each other, I love the occasional response, he or she makes me a better person. Let’s...
Archive for tag: Connection
Sacred Space
Erica and Elliott were making nice progress in couples counseling. Fewer negative incidents occurred in between our sessions. Erica wanted to work more on her...
Reworking
Ed worries a lot, mostly about finances. Since he’s in an industry that has more turnover than most, he’s constantly worrying about his family’s future....
Erosion and Explosions
Some couples gradually lose their connection with each other—erosion. This tends to happen with more established couples when the stresses of life, e.g., work or...
Chalk Portraits
Now that Ed was working from home, Denise asked him to help out with the kids for an hour a day. This would give her...
Create Connection
There are three primary ways couples connect with one another: sharing, doing, and being. Sharing can range from talking about one’s day, sharing stressful situations,...
I Want To Be Like You
When I first started couples counseling with Bruce and Lauren, their 14-year-old daughter asked her mother, “Do you still love dad?” This was not an...
Challenging Times
Bridget and Ed ended up in my office because Bridget had an affair. Ed was shocked because it seemed so out of character for Bridget....
Course Correction
Most relationships hit ruts in which they need to course correct. It’s like your navigation system re-calibrating when you make a wrong turn. If you...
Hello Good-Bye
Successful couples say hello when they greet each other and good-bye when they part. They say good morning when they awake and good night when...