In our couples counseling session, Tom began to tell Ally what she should have done in a particular situation. I interrupted him and asked him...
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14.122022November 9, 2022
I Disagree
During my information-gathering session with Katie and Mike, they shared an interaction in which Mike gave his point of view, and Katie said, “I disagree!”...
12.102022October 12, 2022
A Good Student
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage CounselingTags Criticism, Defensiveness, Feedback
Alyssa initiated couples counseling when she was questioning whether to continue her marriage. She was quite withdrawn from her husband Tim. Tim was constantly critical...
23.032022February 2, 2022
Turning Point
Couples counseling primarily provides real time feedback to couples when they are communicating in session. Their newly learned skills eventually slip into their communication between...
29.092021September 29, 2021
Change Possibilities
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Responses
Essential skills for successful couples are to: give good feedback and to absorb feedback. First of all, feedback is sharing the impact of a partner’s...
07.042021April 1, 2021
Getting it Done
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage CounselingTags Being Heard, Communication, Feedback, Feelings, Winning
In working with a young struggling couple, I was struck by how the wife was really getting it. By the fourth session, she made a...
16.122020December 2, 2020
Feedforward
When couples give feedback to one other, it tends to be negative. The information typically describes what their partner is doing wrong—which is often critical....
25.032020September 9, 2020
Mopping Up
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Repairs, Responsiveness
A husband and wife were driving to the store to purchase a new washer. Their current washer was leaking water on the tile floor. Knowing...
04.032020February 3, 2020
Dr. Rein Wouldn’t Approve
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Repairs
I started working with Carol and Jack four months ago. Despite being married three decades, they were separated when I started working with them. They...
15.012020September 9, 2019
Repairs
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Repairs, Responses
Dr. John Gottman’s research demonstrates the importance of not attacking or being defensive. This can prevent conflict from occurring in the first place. However, when...
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