Michael and Eileen talked with each other in couples counseling about how to reconnect. They acknowledged that they weren’t eating meals with each other, despite...
Archive for category: Relationship Counseling
29.042020April 28, 2020
Checking In
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Demands, Disconnected
Despite spending a lot of time together during the COVID-19 pandemic, Eileen and Michael were feeling disconnected. In fact, Eileen was worried about their trajectory—becoming...
22.042020February 3, 2020
We Can’t Afford It
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Disconnected, Dismissive, Finances
Jim and Caroline were talking about finances and Caroline expressed really wanting something. Jim said, “We can’t afford it” and the conversation shut down. The...
08.042020February 3, 2020
I Didn’t Mean to Be Dismissive
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Dismissive, Support
Joseph and Holly were suffering. After many years of sobriety, their adult daughter relapsed. Joseph made comments such as “Nothing we can do about it.”...
01.042020February 3, 2020
Tangled Yarn
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Emotional Support, Rash Decisions
Pete and Rebecca’s relationship was strained. This was the second marriage for each of them and they both had adult children. Rebecca’s daughter lived with...
25.032020February 3, 2020
Mopping Up
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Repairs, Responsiveness
A husband and wife were driving to the store to purchase a new washer. Their current washer was leaking water on the tile floor. Knowing...
04.032020February 3, 2020
Dr. Rein Wouldn’t Approve
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Repairs
I started working with Carol and Jack four months ago. Despite being married three decades, they were separated when I started working with them. They...
26.022020February 3, 2020
Be Amazing
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Code Words, Listening
Jean talked about her struggles at work and Frank couldn’t help giving advice. Jean expressed previously that she just wants to share her story, but...
29.012020January 23, 2020
Words Matter
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Communication Sequences
Couples have incidents and issues that they need to work through. Each time an incident or issue is unresolved, it builds up. It’s like dropping...
15.012020September 9, 2019
Repairs
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Repairs, Responses
Dr. John Gottman’s research demonstrates the importance of not attacking or being defensive. This can prevent conflict from occurring in the first place. However, when...