Cascading is when a couple quickly moves from one theme to another theme. The problem is that the conversation changes so quickly that the couple...
05.052021April 1, 2021
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28.042021April 1, 2021
Exchanging Ideas
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Challenging, Criticism, Sharing
When a partner shares a thought or idea, be very careful about challenging that thought or idea. To do so may indicate that their thought...
21.042021April 1, 2021
Not Slipping Away
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Addiction, Communication, Recovery
When Mandy first called the office, she said that she and her husband Alex were having severe communication issues. However, in our first session, Alex...
14.042021April 1, 2021
Very Carefully
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Conflict, Escalation, Language
When Kate first emailed me to inquire about a scheduling a session, she wrote “Our marriage is only 4 years old and rapidly deteriorating. We...
27.012021December 2, 2020
Read the Room
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Attacks, Defensiveness
Jack and Eileen were arguing at home when Jack attacked Eileen, Eileen reacted, and Jack said, “Let’s end this.” When they processed this interaction in...
20.012021December 2, 2020
What I Need
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Criticism, Needs
Sue took issue with Jeremy calling her useless. She began to criticize him for name-calling when I stopped her. I suggested that rather than pointing...
14.102020September 9, 2020
Erosion and Explosions
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Connection, Disconnected, Erosion, Obstructions
Some couples gradually lose their connection with each other—erosion. This tends to happen with more established couples when the stresses of life, e.g., work or...
07.102020September 9, 2020
Different Thoughts
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Details, Judging, Respect
Meg has a creative mind. It moves from one thought to another, but doesn’t always connect the dots. She sees things holistically, but may miss...
30.092020September 9, 2020
Under the Influence
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Alcohol, Alcoholic, Attacks, Defensiveness
When a couple has a partner who struggles with alcohol use, many spouses tend to attack the struggling partner. When the struggling spouse feels attacked,...
23.092020September 9, 2020
Culture Wars
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Anger, Cultures, Tone
When working with couples from different cultures, it is important to be sensitive to their cultural expectations of a relationship, but also help them to...