Expectations can be detrimental to a relationship. They are typically imposed thoughts of how a partner should behave, such as “I expect you to….” Expectations...
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29.102024September 12, 2024
Resolve Doesn’t Mean You Agree
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Conflict, Finances, Right, Wrong
Claire was upset at Andy for moving money from one account to another without telling her. He said he thought he had told her, but...
22.102024September 12, 2024
Muscle Memory
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Language, Muscle Memory
In my couples counseling sessions, we focus a lot on language. Couples’ ability to work through issues depends on their communication skills. Couples counseling aims...
15.102024September 12, 2024
Rewiring
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Intimacy, Verbal Abuse
Heather came to couples counseling to either repair their relationship or end it. Her husband of thirty years, Jay, recently erupted and verbally attacked her,...
08.102024September 12, 2024
Integrity in Your Words
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Individual Relationship Coaching, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Conscientious, Integrity, Pain, Support, Uplift
I usually think of integrity as fidelity in a committed relationship. However, one of my clients discussed having “integrity in your words.” I liked the...
01.102024September 12, 2024
Us
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Conflict, Healthy Relationships, Partnership
The wife of a couple had a great description of what can happen in relationships. She said, “It is me versus you instead of us...
17.092024September 12, 2024
Imposed Perfectionism
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Criticism, Judgement, Perfectionism, Truth
Perfectionism is not a problem in itself. If someone holds high standards for themselves, that is their prerogative. However, if they impose those high standards...
12.062024April 25, 2024
Neutrality
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Couples Counseling, Neutrality
If a couple is seeking counseling, one essential quality to look for in a couple’s therapist is neutrality. That is, neither partner feels that the...
05.062024April 25, 2024
Best Thing We’ve Ever Done
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Mental Abuse, Negativity, Resentment, Sarcasm, Withdrawal
Andrea and Mark have been married for four decades and report their relationship was sometimes “horrible.” Andrea resented being emotionally treated like a punching bag....
29.052024April 25, 2024
Master Healthy Communication
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Couples Counseling, Dismissive, Emotional Support
Rachel is looking for emotional support from her sometimes dismissive husband, Rob. Rob tended to say, “You’re fine,” when she shared something emotionally upsetting. She...