Cascading is when a couple quickly moves from one theme to another theme. The problem is that the conversation changes so quickly that the couple...
05.052021April 1, 2021
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28.042021April 1, 2021
Exchanging Ideas
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Challenging, Criticism, Sharing
When a partner shares a thought or idea, be very careful about challenging that thought or idea. To do so may indicate that their thought...
21.042021April 1, 2021
Not Slipping Away
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Addiction, Communication, Recovery
When Mandy first called the office, she said that she and her husband Alex were having severe communication issues. However, in our first session, Alex...
14.042021April 1, 2021
Very Carefully
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Conflict, Escalation, Language
When Kate first emailed me to inquire about a scheduling a session, she wrote “Our marriage is only 4 years old and rapidly deteriorating. We...
07.042021April 1, 2021
Getting it Done
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage CounselingTags Being Heard, Communication, Feedback, Feelings, Winning
In working with a young struggling couple, I was struck by how the wife was really getting it. By the fourth session, she made a...
27.012021December 2, 2020
Read the Room
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Attacks, Defensiveness
Jack and Eileen were arguing at home when Jack attacked Eileen, Eileen reacted, and Jack said, “Let’s end this.” When they processed this interaction in...
20.012021December 2, 2020
What I Need
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Criticism, Needs
Sue took issue with Jeremy calling her useless. She began to criticize him for name-calling when I stopped her. I suggested that rather than pointing...
13.012021December 2, 2020
Transparency
Christie discovered that Connor was calling another woman. Since Connor had a history of not being honest, this made the issue even more problematic. Connor...
09.122020December 2, 2020
Capacity for Change
A client was describing being estranged from his sister. Any consideration of reconciliation was non-existent. The sister was written off. It made me think about...
21.102020October 20, 2020
Lost and found
Amy and Julian were married for over three decades. They were quite disconnected and questioned whether to continue the marriage. The kids were adults now,...