Successful couples know how to discuss issues without escalating. If they do escalate, they may be able to repair conflict as it’s occurring. If not,...
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10.042019April 3, 2019
I’m Sorry
Apologies help heal conflict. There are different levels of apologies and each level described below becomes more effective. Level 1: “I’m sorry.” This is the...
20.122017April 25, 2018
Put Your Shoes Away
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Conflict, Differences
Differences can create conflict in relationships. The challenge is to distinguish between personality differences—which are unlikely to change—and behaviors, which are amenable to change. Personality...
13.122017April 25, 2018
That’s Gross!
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Conflict, Criticism
David put his finger in a jar of peanut butter, licked the peanut butter off his finger, and proceeded to put his licked finger back...
04.052017January 17, 2017
Well, Maybe Not Every Relationship-Serial Infidelity
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Affairs, Conflict, Disconnected, Infidelity
Helping couples recover from physical or emotional affairs is unfortunately standard work in couples counseling. Most affairs occur when couples disconnect due to conflict and...
13.042017April 13, 2017
My Loneliest Moment…
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Conflict, Despair, Withdrawal
“My loneliest moment is lying next to you” is an actual quote. It’s painful to hear the level of despair this woman feels for her husband....
26.012017January 17, 2017
Couples Deserve To Succeed—Part 2
If a couple starts a conversation with a negative statement (a harsh startup), the likelihood of responding negatively (the second statement) is 94%. Therefore the...
30.062016May 31, 2016
The Sound Relationship House – Part 2
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Relationship CounselingTags Conflict, Positive Perspective, Positivity, Sound Relationship House
This is a continuation of last week’s blog regarding Dr. John Gottman’s Sound Relationship House. The fourth level of The Sound Relationship House is the...
31.032016March 29, 2016
An Unpleasant Holiday
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Conflict, Escalation
Jeannie works in the restaurant industry. When she was working Christmas Eve, her husband Rick planned to make the night special despite her not being...
22.032016March 29, 2016
Zero to One Hundred
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Conflict, Escalation
Escalation is a core problem in many relationships. If a person starts a conversation with a negative comment, the likelihood of a partner responding negatively...