In a couples counseling session, Sarah described losing herself in the marriage. She found her husband, Robert, controlling, and was losing her sense of self and esteem. She was contemplating divorce since “insanity” would be worse than divorce.

As Sarah described her experience, Robert was finally hearing the impact of his words and behavior on her. He felt awful and was determined to do differently. Whether this couple makes it will depend on Sarah’s ability to continue sharing her experience and Robert’s willingness to make monumental changes.