When someone is saying what they think or feel is true for them, I encourage couples to assume their partner is being truthful. If a...
16.102019September 4, 2019
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09.102019September 4, 2019
The Right Frequency for Sessions
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Counseling Process, Counseling Sessions
When I work with most couples, meeting every other week seems to be the right frequency. It’s enough time to allow issues to emerge in...
02.102019September 4, 2019
Be There
Donna was thrilled by her accomplishment. She was developing a new company policy that her colleagues doubted would ever be implemented. Donna was asked to...
25.092019September 4, 2019
I Want To Be Like You
When I first started couples counseling with Bruce and Lauren, their 14-year-old daughter asked her mother, “Do you still love dad?” This was not an...
18.092019September 4, 2019
Being There
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Emotional Support
Caroline yearns to share with her husband Rob—her struggles with her mother, transitions in friendships, and worries in general. Her husband Rob, who works as...
11.092019September 4, 2019
Pixie Dust
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Responses, Responsiveness
Rachel had felt alone in her relationship for years, experiencing the relationship as one-sided. She supported her husband Dan but didn’t get the same in return.
04.092019September 9, 2019
Repair Work
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Responses
Liz asked Jim to do something for her and Jim reluctantly complied. Picking up on his resistance, she later asked, “Why did you do it?” ...
26.062019April 3, 2019
You Are My World
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Love, Sentiments
The following sweet dialogue was sent to me by one of my clients. Source unknown. Wife: “I love you!” Husband: “I love you too!” Wife:...
19.062019April 3, 2019
Share, Don’t Tell
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Advice, Self-Disclosure
Mike was struggling to stay asleep. His wife Mary recently purchased a FitBit to monitor her health, including sleep patterns. She told Mike to buy...
12.062019April 3, 2019
Why
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Criticism, Lead-In Phrases
I was recently at a presentation by the Samaritans on suicide prevention. They said their volunteers are taught not to ask “why” questions, saying that...