When a young child is learning their native language, he or she eventually intuits the structure of language. Although the child will be taught the...
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16.062021May 26, 2021
Avoiding Trip Wires
Thomas walks on eggshells. He’s afraid to say something at home that will set off conflict. He said it’s like avoiding trip wires. By evading...
09.062021May 26, 2021
Grim Reality
Normally I share stories about successful couples, but this story is about a couple who may not make it. I think we can also learn...
02.062021May 26, 2021
Guy Talk
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage CounselingTags Being Heard, Defensiveness, Language, Responses
Marianne has an issue with how Doug sometimes talks. He can be crude and occasionally offensive. He works in a prison where language can be...
26.052021May 26, 2021
Reworking
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage CounselingTags Communication, Connection, Finances, reworking, Support
Ed worries a lot, mostly about finances. Since he’s in an industry that has more turnover than most, he’s constantly worrying about his family’s future....
19.052021May 18, 2021
Reprocessing
Processing conflict is one of the most important skills successful couples develop. Since conflict in relationships is inevitable, discussing conflict allows individuals to learn what...
12.052021April 1, 2021
That’s Who You Are
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Judgement, Misperceptions, Perceptions, personalities
As they were packing the car from a ski weekend away, Will barked at his wife when she almost knocked over a box that had...
05.052021April 1, 2021
Cascading
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Cascading, Escalation, Patience, Respect
Cascading is when a couple quickly moves from one theme to another theme. The problem is that the conversation changes so quickly that the couple...
28.042021April 1, 2021
Exchanging Ideas
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Challenging, Criticism, Sharing
When a partner shares a thought or idea, be very careful about challenging that thought or idea. To do so may indicate that their thought...
21.042021April 1, 2021
Not Slipping Away
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Addiction, Communication, Recovery
When Mandy first called the office, she said that she and her husband Alex were having severe communication issues. However, in our first session, Alex...