Discernment Counseling is a relatively new form of counseling for couples. It is designed for couples in which at least...
Marriage Counseling
Experience ways to find renewed happiness and rebuild the emotional connection in your marriage.
Marriage Counseling Overview
Differences in a marriage are normal, but can escalate to major conflicts, especially if the communication is strained or if one or both partners are withdrawn.
Over the years, Relationship Resources has helped thousands of married and unmarried couples undo rigid and negative patterns of behavior and transform their relationships to new-found levels of happiness and enjoyment.
Marriage Counseling Process
Marriage counseling at Relationship Resources is based upon methods to actively encourage couples to communicate in a non-threatening way. During couples therapy, partners communicate face-to-face, openly and honestly about their issues.
Throughout the conversation, Dr. Rein works with couples to identify and prevent flash-points that create conflict escalation. Extra emphasis is placed on the detection of intricate subtleties that create communication setbacks.
Dr. Rein provides feedback and direction toward the most effective way of communicating in any situation. His observations encourage respectful and mutually compassionate interactions, and help dispel miscommunications that cause pre-marital or marital tensions.
The Results of Counseling
The underlying goal of our sessions is to:
Increase the pleasure of spending time with your partner
Heighten or reestablish emotional intimacy
Help rediscover happiness in your relationship
Marriage Counseling Blog Posts
Different Strokes
Andrew and Jennifer made enough progress in couples counseling to finally talk about intimacy, or in their case, lack of...
Recipe for Disaster
This was the third stint of couples counseling for Rob and Amy. I often felt Rob didn’t want to be...
Counter Punches
I saw Jessica and Dave about five years ago for a few sessions, and they recently returned. I was curious...
Healing Wounds
Susan and Ron struggled when I first saw them in couples counseling. They were now making enough progress to spread...
Getting Closer
In my first session with couples, I typically ask them what their goals are for couples counseling—what they want to...
Skeptics Welcome
On occasion, I get spouses who question how useful couples counseling is going to be. I never try to convince...
Paradigm Shift
James and Dawn were in a bad place. They had made progress in couples counseling, but then had a setback...
Old Habits Die Hard
Angelo and Melissa had a troubled relationship. By the time they started couples counseling, Melissa had moved out and started...
Foundational Issues
Most couples start couples counseling, wanting to talk about their last fight or blowout, but Patrick said he didn’t want...
Tribute
Rick and Cindy had a really difficult teenager. Brendan was constantly challenging them. He pushed the limits regularly. The couple...
Parenting the Parent
Andrea and Mark had two rambunctious young boys, and Andrea really struggled with them. They rarely listened to her, and...
What Our Clients Are Saying
I truly believe God puts the right people in your life just when you need them most. We are so grateful he put you in ours. Thank you for all your hard work and great efforts in helping us.
I cannot begin to express the immense amount of gratitude that I have for Dr. Rein for guiding us with his expertise on the road to repairing our marriage. We separated a couple of times and in fact, were separated at the time we started our couples counseling with Dr. Rein.
He gave us the confidence that our relationship, being that we both wanted it very much, could be repaired. The dialog that we had with each other was guided by Dr. Rein and he taught us so much about communication.
We were aware of our issues but had no idea that we weren’t communicating effectively. Communication is the key to a successful marriage. Just choosing a different way of saying something can make a world of difference.
Before we started couples therapy, I never would have thought changing our way of communicating would have such a positive impact. Through that, we were able to talk in a healthy way about anything. In all of our sessions, Dr. Rein really listened to what we were saying, watched us interact as a couple and offered his expertise. He is very skilled, knowledgeable, sincere, kind and supportive and truly wants to see couples succeed.
I will be forever grateful for what he has done for my marriage. The skills he taught us, we use all the time. What we learned in our therapy will forever be a part of our lives. I highly recommend Dr. Rein. He is one of a kind, a true blessing! We are both very grateful and also very happy to say we ended our separation, and my husband came back home. We will be celebrating 32 years of marriage in a few months! Dr. Rein helped make this possible!!! Thank you so much, Dr. Rein!
After more than two decades of marriage, we had deeply-rooted poor communication patterns. We had never learned to speak effectively to each other without setting off triggers, or creating a “second fight.”
That cycle of negativity caused frustration and resentment that undermined and threatened our relationship. Through our work with Dr. Rein, we learned how to manage these complicated issues and become a stronger and closer couple.
Dr. Rein is a very special couples therapist. He is highly skilled and patient guided. He helped us to finally communicate effectively, which was very much like learning a new and better language. We highly recommend Dr. Rein. He offers couples insightful observations and suggestions in a very positive and productive environment.
Just wanted to let you know there’s been marked improvement after just one session. It was difficult to say all the things I had to say but helpful that you were there as a third-party.
My husband also feels encouraged. Even though it’s difficult to deal with these things, I think it will be extremely helpful, especially in light of our family issues. There were a few instances where he already rephrased things and I responded positively. During this Thanksgiving season we are thankful for you.
When my husband and I started seeing Dr. Rein, we thought our relationship might not work because our personalities were too different.
We had been seeing another marriage counselor for over 6 months and that just wasn’t working. Looking back, our first marriage counselor felt more like a referee. My husband and I would discuss our fights and she’d let us know which one of us was being reasonable and which one was being unreasonable; then we’d discuss our different upbringings to determine why each of us felt the way we felt.
Those methods never moved us forward. Dr. Rein never felt like a referee; he felt like a coach. If my husband felt unappreciated, it was taken as a fact; it wasn’t debated. The goal was to understand how I could express my appreciation because what I was saying or doing wasn’t working.
If I felt hurt by something my husband said, it was taken as a fact; it wasn’t debated or determined to be an unreasonable feeling. The goal was to help my husband understand why I felt hurt and to help him communicate his feelings in a way that wasn’t hurtful to me.
After working with Dr. Rein our personalities haven’t changed but our communication has and that has made all the difference. My husband and I still have disagreements, but we know how to keep them from escalating to relationship-harming blowouts. We are much more capable of expressing our wants and needs while still expressing how much we truly care for each other. I feel like we have “us” back. We have found our friendship again; we have fun all the time and enjoy each other again. I am so incredibly grateful for Dr. Rein’s help in saving our relationship.
I often think about how you helped us through our troubled time and just want to thank you again. Our relationship has grown better and better by the years because of our meetings with you, learning to communicate, and of course staying out of trouble on my end.
Last year, I took our whole family on safari and I surprised her with renewing our vows in the Kalahari Desert at sunset. She’s the best thing that ever happened to me and you helped open my eyes to what I really had, because at the end of the day, she really wasn’t the cause. I sincerely want you to know that I doubt we would still be together without your help. Just so you know, anyone I talk to who has relationship issues, you’re the number I give them. Not sure if you see any of them, but for their sake, I hope so.
I just wanted to say that I enjoy the blogs that you’ve been sending and let you know that we are so grateful for your help. The “marathon sessions” were the best! That may have been more than a year ago, maybe two, but our relationship is still benefiting from the things you taught us.
Now, when one of us gets upset about something, it’s not a world-ending downward-spiraling catastrophe (and that’s a relief in itself!), but instead we can get ourselves out of it and even laugh together! It’s been great and we say all the time that we’re so thankful for you.
I can’t say enough about what Dr. Rein has done for my husband and I. We love each other very much but we were having some difficulties communicating with one another and decided it would be beneficial to get some counseling.
Dr. Rein came highly recommended and of course it was hard to go to our first appointment, but over time we have achieved great success! We have learned quite a lot about each other and ourselves as well. We have a much greater respect for each other as individuals and a newfound love for one another.
We have learned a very difficult skill, which is effective communication, that we have made great strides in. We are not perfect as we are human but we can now recognize that it’s not just what we say but also how we say it that can alter the outcome of our discussions which can quickly escalate into an argument.
Dr. Rein is patient and unbiased which makes us feel that he is not taking sides and instead listens to our topics and reflects his thoughts in a non-judgmental manner. Thanks to Dr. Rein and his calm, kind and caring demeanor, he has taught us valuable lifelong skills that has significantly improved our marriage, our relationships with others and our overall happiness. Thank you Dr. Rein!
Dr. Rein’s approach to couples counseling is very invigorating. When my wife and I began counseling I would have to admit I was not hopeful for a happy ending. I had resigned myself to the fact that my wife and I would go our separate ways.
The counseling sessions were at times very intense. As we worked together, with Dr. Rein’s guidance I realized what a great loss it would have been if my wife and I were not able to work through our issues. I am forever grateful for the work Dr. Rein put in and his approach was flawless.
“A good marriage isn’t something you find; it’s something you make, and you have to keep making it.” Thanks to Dr. Rein we are making it. With his tremendous support, and guidance he has helped us to overcome many obstacles.
Our story is not like others, as there was another component to my infidelity, and that was my struggle with addiction to medication. I never shared this extremely painful problem with my husband until my infidelity was discovered.
Now, here we were dealing with two very painful hurdles, and so much pain. In the beginning, it seemed that I had surely broken our marriage forever. Dr. Rein has helped us rebuild our marriage as well as my self esteem. He has provided us with the tools we need for effective communication.
Every passing day we are still recovering, but with Dr. Rein’s help we finally see light at the end of what has been the darkest tunnel. We are beyond grateful to have found him. He truly cares, and it shows. He has helped us to overcome not only infidelity, but my addiction as well. Thank you from the very depths of our hearts Dr. Rein.
I cannot express how wonderful Dr. Rein has been for my relationship and marriage with my husband. He has taught us how to effectively communicate with each other and to understand one another’s needs.
After a very terrible patch in our marriage, we have been able to overcome our differences and are now expecting our second child together. We both cannot thank Dr. Rein enough for his guidance, experience and support.
Communication was an issue in our marriage for over a decade and we got to a point where we felt like giving up. Dr. Rein’s approach was like nothing we had ever experienced before. It helped us better understand each other and made even the most complex marital issues seem effortless to handle. I cannot imagine how our marriage could have survived without the compassionate counseling of Dr. Rein. I’m proud to say that our marriage is stronger than ever and we owe that to Dr. Rein.
I came to Dr. Rein for relationship counseling when I felt lost, despairing of the future of my marriage. Though my husband did not join me in counseling, the communication skills I learned from Dr. Rein shifted our marriage into a loving, more open relationship. It was amazing to see that as I developed a healthier expression, so did my husband! I’m very grateful for all I’ve learned.
When we were referred to Dr. Rein, our marriage was broken, seemingly beyond repair. With the guidance and support of Dr. Rein (aka: the marriage whisperer) our marriage is happier and healthier than it has ever been. He also gifted us with a skill set that we can use anytime we need for a “marriage check-up”. We are grateful beyond words for Dr. Rein’s help.
I have my husband back!!!! With Dr. Rein’s guidance my husband and I have reconnected and are in love again. I didn’t really believe it was possible to save my marriage. I made the 1st appointment because I wanted to be able to say we tried everything before filing for divorce, but I still expected to be getting a divorce. Never been so happy to be wrong!
My wife and I had been married for over 40 years. Unfortunately we had fallen into a difficult time in our relationship. We were not communicating and were drifting apart. Dr. Rein met with us and immediately recognized our problem. He taught us a new and better way to communicate with each other. Thanks to Dr. Rein, our relationship has never been better.
Dr. Rein promised me and my husband that we would be happier after coming to see him in counseling. He followed through with his promise!
We are now going to enter our 18th year of marriage with gratitude and a new-found love for each other. Certainly a long way from when we first walked through Dr. Rein’s door. Thank you for your help Dr. Rein. We could have not reached this level of our relationship without your guidance.
We are very thankful that we found Dr. Rein–for us, our marriage, our children and our family. His neutral and genuine approach is very effective with us in our counseling sessions. He has taught us to see things and approach things differently, to communicate better, listen more and argue less, to own up to the difficult things that we bring as individuals to the relationship and to remember the positive traits that brought us together in the first place. We would highly recommend Dr. Rein.