The primary issue for one of my couples was the husband’s lack of emotional restraint. Despite making progress, the husband continued to have explosive episodes that could devolve into name-calling. The wife was reaching her limit of what she could endure. 

The husband was looking for advice online and came across a video about a 30-second pause. This really resonated with the husband. If he could just pause for thirty seconds, this could break the cycle enough to maintain his composure.

He was excited to practice this, since it felt doable. The survival of his marriage required restraint.