Tom was quiet at home. Donna perceived his being quiet as him thinking that he was better than her. When she brought this up at...
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I’ll Consider It
During our couples counseling session, Ann was asking for something, and Mark responded with “We’ll see.” Ann viscerally reacted to his statement but wasn’t clear...
Intuitive Learning
When a young child is learning their native language, he or she eventually intuits the structure of language. Although the child will be taught the...
Grim Reality
Normally I share stories about successful couples, but this story is about a couple who may not make it. I think we can also learn...
Guy Talk
Marianne has an issue with how Doug sometimes talks. He can be crude and occasionally offensive. He works in a prison where language can be...
Reworking
Ed worries a lot, mostly about finances. Since he’s in an industry that has more turnover than most, he’s constantly worrying about his family’s future....
Reprocessing
Processing conflict is one of the most important skills successful couples develop. Since conflict in relationships is inevitable, discussing conflict allows individuals to learn what...
That’s Who You Are
As they were packing the car from a ski weekend away, Will barked at his wife when she almost knocked over a box that had...
Cascading
Cascading is when a couple quickly moves from one theme to another theme. The problem is that the conversation changes so quickly that the couple...
Exchanging Ideas
When a partner shares a thought or idea, be very careful about challenging that thought or idea. To do so may indicate that their thought...