Tasks in a relationship don’t have to be equal; they just need to be fair. Scorecards are used when a couple tries to prove they...
Archive for category: Couples Therapy
Needs & Impact
Erin and Jeff had two young children and were frequently in conflict. Now a stay-at-home mother, Erin expected Jeff to know what she needed. For...
No Recourse to Clarity
I was now meeting with Paul and Jessica every 3 months and in their last session, Paul was reflecting on what they were doing differently....
Profound Simplicity
If you want to be a better person, there is no better place to work on this than in your relationship. Every day, you can...
Formula for Success
When Alyssa feels unimportant, she gets angry, but her husband, Dave, experiences her anger as an attack. Instead, now she will tell Dave that she’s...
Heating Up
Some folks are microwaves—they heat up quickly but cool off quickly. Others are ovens—they gradually heat up but need time to cool down. These personality...
Into the Future
Criticism erodes relationships. Being mindful that your words are non-critical is a key to success. If your partner reacts or responds defensively to your words,...
Better Versions
Drew is in his early forties, and Kristine is in her late thirties. Neither has been married before. They have been together for 2 years...
What Would Have Worked For Me
In our couples counseling session, Tom began to tell Ally what she should have done in a particular situation. I interrupted him and asked him...
Tech Boundaries
Aimee and Chris were out to dinner, and Chris got on his phone to record an event in his schedule. Aimee was annoyed by this...