Author archive for: drrein

Sue and Eric were making very nice progress in couples counseling, and in reviewing their improvements, they began to talk about their families. Sue talked...

01.112023September 13, 2023

Thousands of Little Choices

By Dr. Richard ReinIn Marriage CounselingTags Blame, Choices, Connection, Disconnection

Individuals constantly make behavioral choices in their marital interactions: they either turn toward their partner, turn away from their partner, or turn against their partner....

25.102023September 13, 2023

Working on Yourself

By Dr. Richard ReinIn Marriage CounselingTags Assumptions, Blame, Reactivity

Caitlyn and Alex have been together a decade and a half, but now they hardly talk to each other. They both want to save the...

18.102023September 13, 2023

Triggers

By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage CounselingTags Communication, Perceptions, Reactivity, Triggers

Trigger words are language that unintentionally evokes a negative reaction in a partner. These words are typically unique to the couple and occasionally go across...

11.102023September 12, 2023

Working on Themselves

By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples TherapyTags Anxiety, Blame, Honesty, Reactivity, Speaking Up, Temper

Sheri and Ed were really struggling. They initially made progress in couples counseling but were having a setback. Early in the work, they were working...

20.092023September 12, 2023

Different Strokes

By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples TherapyTags Compliments, Intimacy, Standards

Andrew and Jennifer made enough progress in couples counseling to finally talk about intimacy, or in their case, lack of intimacy. Jennifer said they were...

13.092023September 12, 2023

Recipe for Disaster

By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples TherapyTags Anger, Criticism, Reactivity

This was the third stint of couples counseling for Rob and Amy. I often felt Rob didn’t want to be in couples counseling but felt...