Would you go with me to the Smith’s party? a. “Why would I want to do that?” b. “I hate the Smiths.” c. “I’d be...
06.062018May 30, 2018
I Promise
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Drinking, Intoxication, Promises
Making promises can be problematic in a relationship, since one is guaranteeing they will do something. If he or she ends up not doing it,...
30.052018May 30, 2018
Hitting the Lottery
Rick and Amy were having a dinner party with several other couples. Rick shared a story about meeting Amy and “pulling her out of the...
23.052018May 30, 2018
Hello Good-Bye
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Connection, Rituals
Successful couples say hello when they greet each other and good-bye when they part. They say good morning when they awake and good night when...
17.052018May 30, 2018
A Love Story
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Love Stories
John’s parents divorced when he was a toddler and he immigrated from Cape Verde to the US as a teenager with his mother. His dad...
10.052018May 30, 2018
You’re Controlling
Andrea and Don came to marriage counseling to work on their disconnection. As they talked about their disconnection, Andrea talked about feeling micro-managed and controlled, ...
03.052018May 30, 2018
You Don’t Fight Anymore
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Collaboration, Parenting, Ripple Effect
As Roberta and Dan were concluding their marriage counseling sessions, we were reviewing their progress. Roberta shared that their 8 year old son Conor recently...
26.042018May 30, 2018
What Do You Need?
I was recently reading the Gottman Institute’s newsletter Marriage Minute and the Gottmans’ shared a story about their relationship. Dr. Julie Gottman shared feeling upset...
19.042018May 30, 2018
Disengaged
The majority of couples in counseling have difficulty managing conflict, but discord doesn’t characterize every couple. Some couples are disengaged. Disconnected couples may avoid addressing...
10.042018May 30, 2018
A Word Can Make A Difference
During a couples counseling session, Debbie told her husband Al, “You are depressed.” The problem with the statement is that it’s critical and analytic—she’s diagnosing...