You’re Too Sensitive

“You’re too sensitive!” or “You’re insensitive!” are both accusatory statements. The recipient is likely to react or withdraw. Every individual falls somewhere along the continuum of sensitivity. Sensitivity is a personality characteristic that individuals bring to a relationship. The most sensitive individuals will be responsive to a partner’s needs. The least sensitive individuals will be less reactive to stress.

It’s important not to judge sensitivity, but instead to appreciate a partner’s level of sensitivity. If one has a sensitive partner, individuals need to be be more careful about how they express themselves. If one has a less sensitive partner, individuals need to be stronger when expressing themselves.

The challenge is to accept a partner’s level of sensitivity, since sensitivity is an enduring personality characteristic. Instead of judging, one needs to modify their verbal behavior, understanding that a partner’s sensitivity level influences how they hear your comments.