Some couples are so reactive that when they talk directly to each other in couples counseling, they escalate quickly. Their patterns are so ingrained that...
27.052025April 29, 2025
I Expect
Expectations can be detrimental to a relationship. They are typically imposed thoughts of how a partner should behave, such as “I expect you to….” Expectations...
20.052025April 28, 2025
Harmonious Differences
Differences don’t need to be problematic in relationships, since all relationships have differences. The issue is how couples manage these differences. Ideally, couples have respectful...
13.052025April 28, 2025
Measured Response
The husband of one of my couples talked about having a measured response. This was a great description of what individuals try to achieve in...
06.052025March 25, 2025
Damaged?
Phil told me that he and Elyse had a damaged relationship. At home, the language was inflammatory, and conversations were futile. In couples counseling, they...
29.042025March 25, 2025
The Best I Can
As Tom and Andrea discussed their struggles, Tom said, “I’m doing the best I can.” I told Tom that the statement suggests he cannot do...
22.042025March 25, 2025
Profound Impact
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples TherapyTags Awareness, Emotional Intelligence, Emotional Maturity, Empathy
Avery talked about a turning point in their relationship after she revealed to Dom that she was in a low place in her life. Since...
15.042025March 25, 2025
Tell Me Your Thoughts
“Tell me your thoughts” is a nice statement for couples to add to their repertoire. It represents interest and curiosity in your partner and encourages...
08.042025March 25, 2025
Lack of Execution
In my first meeting with Sherry and Luke, Sherry said she was ready to leave the relationship. She doubted their communication and ability to function...
01.042025March 25, 2025
Conflict Determines Intimacy
I have been working with Chuck and Alyson in couples counseling for about 9 months, and they talked about their lack of intimacy—no affection or...