Erin and Tom were invited to a neighbor’s house for a dinner party. When they asked what to bring, the neighbors said not to bring...
13.042022April 12, 2022
Archive for tag: Responses
16.032022February 2, 2022
At Fault Again
Ann and Jeff were sitting down for dinner when Jeff took a call from his father. His father was dealing with an urgent situation and...
16.022022January 28, 2022
No Big Deal
One of the comments couples can make is “It’s no big deal.” I find men more likely to make this comment than women. The problem...
06.102021September 29, 2021
But We Have All These Things
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage CounselingTags Being Heard, Communication, Responses, Time
Since Scott is self-employed, his work often blends into the weekend. Andrea talked about wanting to spend more time together on the weekend as a...
29.092021September 29, 2021
Change Possibilities
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Responses
Essential skills for successful couples are to: give good feedback and to absorb feedback. First of all, feedback is sharing the impact of a partner’s...
02.062021September 29, 2021
Guy Talk
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage CounselingTags Being Heard, Defensiveness, Language, Responses
Marianne has an issue with how Doug sometimes talks. He can be crude and occasionally offensive. He works in a prison where language can be...
01.042021October 25, 2022
Clarity Creates Change
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Relationship Counseling, UncategorizedTags Escalation, Flashpoints, Responses
Frank went out to pick up some groceries, but Meredith didn’t know where he was. When he returned, Meredith expressed her upset feelings about not...
02.122020December 2, 2020
Not a Smart Idea
Andrea and Ron were enjoying their long weekend at the beach when Andrea was feeling adventurous. Despite it being dark out, Andrea said, “Let’s go...
17.112020November 17, 2020
What’s Wrong? Nothing.
Debbie is pretty intuitive and was sensing something was bothering Chris. When she asked, “What’s wrong?”, he said, “Nothing.” She asked again and his response...
15.012020September 9, 2019
Repairs
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Repairs, Responses
Dr. John Gottman’s research demonstrates the importance of not attacking or being defensive. This can prevent conflict from occurring in the first place. However, when...