Claire was upset at Andy for moving money from one account to another without telling her. He said he thought he had told her, but...
Archive for category: Marriage Counseling
Muscle Memory
In my couples counseling sessions, we focus a lot on language. Couples’ ability to work through issues depends on their communication skills. Couples counseling aims...
Rewiring
Heather came to couples counseling to either repair their relationship or end it. Her husband of thirty years, Jay, recently erupted and verbally attacked her,...
Integrity in Your Words
I usually think of integrity as fidelity in a committed relationship. However, one of my clients discussed having “integrity in your words.” I liked the...
Us
The wife of a couple had a great description of what can happen in relationships. She said, “It is me versus you instead of us...
Wake-Up Call
Angela had issues with her husband, Tim, throughout their relationship. But somehow, Tim didn’t listen to her complaints. Often, he would respond by convincing her...
Imposed Perfectionism
Perfectionism is not a problem in itself. If someone holds high standards for themselves, that is their prerogative. However, if they impose those high standards...
Peace, Love, and Understanding
I was working with Wendy and her husband on issues in their marriage when Wendy talked about what she needed from her marriage, “Peace, love,...
Being Seen & Heard
While marriage counseling with Todd and Deb initially focused on Deb’s infidelity, they gradually widened the lens to work on their marriage. Deb spoke of...
Neutrality
If a couple is seeking counseling, one essential quality to look for in a couple’s therapist is neutrality. That is, neither partner feels that the...