Rachel is looking for emotional support from her sometimes dismissive husband, Rob. Rob tended to say, “You’re fine,” when she shared something emotionally upsetting. She...
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Parenting Policy
It’s important for couples with children to present a united front. However, how does this get reconciled when parents have different parenting approaches? The key...
Needs & Impact
Erin and Jeff had two young children and were frequently in conflict. Now a stay-at-home mother, Erin expected Jeff to know what she needed. For...
Have the Conversation
Last night, I watched a movie, Hope Gap, about a husband who had withdrawn from his wife.Her constant criticism of him led him to retreat....
No Recourse to Clarity
I was now meeting with Paul and Jessica every 3 months and in their last session, Paul was reflecting on what they were doing differently....
Profound Simplicity
If you want to be a better person, there is no better place to work on this than in your relationship. Every day, you can...
Formula for Success
When Alyssa feels unimportant, she gets angry, but her husband, Dave, experiences her anger as an attack. Instead, now she will tell Dave that she’s...
Heating Up
Some folks are microwaves—they heat up quickly but cool off quickly. Others are ovens—they gradually heat up but need time to cool down. These personality...
Big Decisions
One of the biggest decisions someone will make is who they choose to marry. For most, the decision is easy. There is something unique and...
Into the Future
Criticism erodes relationships. Being mindful that your words are non-critical is a key to success. If your partner reacts or responds defensively to your words,...