When I asked Kevin and Doreen, a couple in their sixties, what a fight looked like if I were to observe it, Doreen said, “We...
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19.112025November 6, 2025
Use Statements
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Individual Relationship Coaching, Marriage CounselingTags Mistreatment, Statements
When discussing relationship issues, it’s more effective to use statements than questions. Statements declare what an individual’s thoughts and feelings are on a particular topic,...
12.112025November 6, 2025
Express, Instead of Persuade
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Individual Relationship Coaching, Marriage CounselingTags Debate, Persuasion
It’s important to express oneself rather than persuade your partner to your point of view. Persuasion is more like a debate, in which an individual...
06.112025November 6, 2025
Coaching Success
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Individual Relationship Coaching, Marriage CounselingTags Coaching, Communication, Feedback
Virtually all professional athletes have coaches, whether in team or individual sports. Why can’t couples have the same? They can. Ultimately, a competent couples therapist...
22.102025September 10, 2025
You’re Speaking Loudly
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Individual Relationship Coaching, Marriage CounselingTags Skilled Comments, Volume
Volume can be an issue in relationships. If someone is speaking softly, you might lean in to the conversation. If someone is speaking loudly, you...
08.102025September 10, 2025
I F’ed That Up
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Individual Relationship Coaching, Marriage CounselingTags Accountability, Mistakes
I read the latest book by Bill Belichick on leadership success. One of the more important aspects of success is being able to say, “I...
24.092025September 10, 2025
Different Conversations
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Marriage CounselingTags Attacks, Communication, Divisiveness, Listening, Vulnerability
I watched a movie last night that featured a couple with a lovely relationship. The husband’s son from a previous relationship spent the summer with...
10.062025April 29, 2025
I Didn’t Intend
When Dave says something inappropriate, he tends to respond, “I didn’t intend to hurt you.” For example, when Dave said to his wife, “You don’t...
13.052025April 28, 2025
Measured Response
The husband of one of my couples talked about having a measured response. This was a great description of what individuals try to achieve in...
08.042025March 25, 2025
Lack of Execution
In my first meeting with Sherry and Luke, Sherry said she was ready to leave the relationship. She doubted their communication and ability to function...