Affair-proofing a relationship has to do with creating boundaries in a relationship. Infidelity occurs when a partner crosses a line romantically, emotionally or physically. Individuals...
Archive for category: Couples Therapy
Raise Expectations
Since Kate and Rick were progressing well in marriage counseling, we talked about what we needed to see to indicate it might be time to...
Course Correction
Most relationships hit ruts in which they need to course correct. It’s like your navigation system re-calibrating when you make a wrong turn. If you...
You’re Too Sensitive
“You’re too sensitive!” or “You’re insensitive!” are both accusatory statements. The recipient is likely to react or withdraw. Every individual falls somewhere along the continuum...
I’m Not Going to Change
One of my couples began to squabble during a couples counseling session and the husband Matt said, “I’m not going to change.” Since couples counseling...
You Should
“Shoulds” are problematic in relationships. They indicate that a partner should act or not act in a particular way. If a partner doesn’t act accordingly,...
You Know That
Kevin and Shauna have been dating about 4 years and Shauna was wondering about the future of their relationship. Shauna, an art teacher, is emotional,...
No Filter
A client recently shared with me that when she’s with her husband, “I don’t want to filter what I say.” She wants to “be herself”...
Decelerating
A husband was asking me how his conversations with his wife could decelerate, once they begin to escalate. He described his conversations as driving 100...
Connected Conversations
Kim was longing to feel emotionally connected to Sam again, so I was coaching Sam how to be more emotionally responsive to Kim. They were...