Kevin and Shauna have been dating about 4 years and Shauna was wondering about the future of their relationship. Shauna, an art teacher, is emotional,...
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No Filter
A client recently shared with me that when she’s with her husband, “I don’t want to filter what I say.” She wants to “be herself”...
Decelerating
A husband was asking me how his conversations with his wife could decelerate, once they begin to escalate. He described his conversations as driving 100...
Connected Conversations
Kim was longing to feel emotionally connected to Sam again, so I was coaching Sam how to be more emotionally responsive to Kim. They were...
What I Meant to Say
It’s not unusual for a couple to be talking about a previous conversation and a partner remembers the discussion differently. The tendency is for the...
Security Code
April and John are strongly attracted and feel a deep sense of love for each other. Despite this connection, an issue emerged that was troublesome....
Playing Mozart
After my first information gathering session with Kelly and Ted, I had them read a manual that I routinely give to couples. This manual describes...
Words are Revealing
A husband noticed that his wife talked about their relationship in the past tense and this panicked him. He had a reason to be concerned....
Multiple Choice
Would you go with me to the Smith’s party? a. “Why would I want to do that?” b. “I hate the Smiths.” c. “I’d be...
I Promise
Making promises can be problematic in a relationship, since one is guaranteeing they will do something. If he or she ends up not doing it,...