A husband noticed that his wife talked about their relationship in the past tense and this panicked him. He had a reason to be concerned....
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Multiple Choice
Would you go with me to the Smith’s party? a. “Why would I want to do that?” b. “I hate the Smiths.” c. “I’d be...
I Promise
Making promises can be problematic in a relationship, since one is guaranteeing they will do something. If he or she ends up not doing it,...
Hitting the Lottery
Rick and Amy were having a dinner party with several other couples. Rick shared a story about meeting Amy and “pulling her out of the...
Hello Good-Bye
Successful couples say hello when they greet each other and good-bye when they part. They say good morning when they awake and good night when...
A Love Story
John’s parents divorced when he was a toddler and he immigrated from Cape Verde to the US as a teenager with his mother. His dad...
You’re Controlling
Andrea and Don came to marriage counseling to work on their disconnection. As they talked about their disconnection, Andrea talked about feeling micro-managed and controlled, ...
You Don’t Fight Anymore
As Roberta and Dan were concluding their marriage counseling sessions, we were reviewing their progress. Roberta shared that their 8 year old son Conor recently...
What Do You Need?
I was recently reading the Gottman Institute’s newsletter Marriage Minute and the Gottmans’ shared a story about their relationship. Dr. Julie Gottman shared feeling upset...
Disengaged
The majority of couples in counseling have difficulty managing conflict, but discord doesn’t characterize every couple. Some couples are disengaged. Disconnected couples may avoid addressing...