Andrea and Ron were enjoying their long weekend at the beach when Andrea was feeling adventurous. Despite it being dark out, Andrea said, “Let’s go...
Archive for tag: Responses
17.112020November 17, 2020
What’s Wrong? Nothing.
Debbie is pretty intuitive and was sensing something was bothering Chris. When she asked, “What’s wrong?”, he said, “Nothing.” She asked again and his response...
15.012020September 9, 2019
Repairs
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Repairs, Responses
Dr. John Gottman’s research demonstrates the importance of not attacking or being defensive. This can prevent conflict from occurring in the first place. However, when...
11.092019September 4, 2019
Pixie Dust
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Responses, Responsiveness
Rachel had felt alone in her relationship for years, experiencing the relationship as one-sided. She supported her husband Dan but didn’t get the same in return.
04.092019September 9, 2019
Repair Work
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Responses
Liz asked Jim to do something for her and Jim reluctantly complied. Picking up on his resistance, she later asked, “Why did you do it?” ...
24.042019April 3, 2019
I Love You!
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Responses
Bob complained about Judy’s talking to him from another room. Since his hearing was declining as he aged, he needed Judy to talk to him...
01.082018December 4, 2018
Connected Conversations
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Connecting, Emotional Connection, Responses
Kim was longing to feel emotionally connected to Sam again, so I was coaching Sam how to be more emotionally responsive to Kim. They were...
13.062018May 30, 2018
Multiple Choice
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Responses
Would you go with me to the Smith’s party? a. “Why would I want to do that?” b. “I hate the Smiths.” c. “I’d be...
26.042018May 30, 2018
What Do You Need?
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Responses
I was recently reading the Gottman Institute’s newsletter Marriage Minute and the Gottmans’ shared a story about their relationship. Dr. Julie Gottman shared feeling upset...
01.112017April 25, 2018
Symbols
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Priority, Responses, Symbols
Without saying anything, Jim walked away from dinner with the family to watch the game. In our couples counseling session, Patty felt safe enough to...