I have a couple who is close to finishing counseling. I saw them five months ago, and they shared their progress since their last session....
Archive for tag: Feedback
Damaged?
Phil told me that he and Elyse had a damaged relationship. At home, the language was inflammatory, and conversations were futile. In couples counseling, they...
What Works for Me
If you don’t like what your partner is saying or how they are saying it, many individuals criticize their partner or tell them what they...
What Would Have Worked For Me
In our couples counseling session, Tom began to tell Ally what she should have done in a particular situation. I interrupted him and asked him...
I Disagree
During my information-gathering session with Katie and Mike, they shared an interaction in which Mike gave his point of view, and Katie said, “I disagree!”...
A Good Student
Alyssa initiated couples counseling when she was questioning whether to continue her marriage. She was quite withdrawn from her husband Tim. Tim was constantly critical...
Turning Point
Couples counseling primarily provides real time feedback to couples when they are communicating in session. Their newly learned skills eventually slip into their communication between...
Change Possibilities
Essential skills for successful couples are to: give good feedback and to absorb feedback. First of all, feedback is sharing the impact of a partner’s...
Getting it Done
In working with a young struggling couple, I was struck by how the wife was really getting it. By the fourth session, she made a...
Feedforward
When couples give feedback to one other, it tends to be negative. The information typically describes what their partner is doing wrong—which is often critical....