The following was posted on the Gottman Institute’s blog Marriage Minute. Because the advice is subtle but profound, I wanted to share. Sorry for venting....
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23.102019September 4, 2019
Possibility
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Language, Subtleties
I was talking with a couple about the importance of paying attention to the subtlety of language and the husband said, “I’m not skilled at...
16.102019September 4, 2019
Face Value
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Lies, Mistrust, Trust
When someone is saying what they think or feel is true for them, I encourage couples to assume their partner is being truthful. If a...
09.102019October 20, 2019
The Right Frequency
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Counseling Process, Counseling Sessions
When I work with most couples, meeting every other week seems to be the right frequency. It’s enough time to allow issues to emerge in...
18.092019September 4, 2019
Being There
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Emotional Support
Caroline yearns to share with her husband Rob—her struggles with her mother, transitions in friendships, and worries in general. Her husband Rob, who works as...
11.092019September 4, 2019
Pixie Dust
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Responses, Responsiveness
Rachel had felt alone in her relationship for years, experiencing the relationship as one-sided. She supported her husband Dan but didn’t get the same in return.
04.092019September 9, 2019
Repair Work
Liz asked Jim to do something for her and Jim reluctantly complied. Picking up on his resistance, she later asked, “Why did you do it?” ...
26.062019April 3, 2019
You Are My World
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Love, Sentiments
The following sweet dialogue was sent to me by one of my clients. Source unknown. Wife: “I love you!” Husband: “I love you too!” Wife:...
19.062019April 3, 2019
Share, Don’t Tell
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Advice, Self-Disclosure
Mike was struggling to stay asleep. His wife Mary recently purchased a FitBit to monitor her health, including sleep patterns. She told Mike to buy...
12.062019September 19, 2024
Why
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Criticism, Lead-In Phrases
I was recently at a presentation by the Samaritans on suicide prevention. They said their volunteers are taught not to ask “why” questions, saying that...