The wife of a couple had a great description of what can happen in relationships. She said, “It is me versus you instead of us...
01.102024September 12, 2024
24.092024September 12, 2024
Wake-Up Call
Angela had issues with her husband, Tim, throughout their relationship. But somehow, Tim didn’t listen to her complaints. Often, he would respond by convincing her...
17.092024September 12, 2024
Imposed Perfectionism
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Criticism, Judgement, Perfectionism, Truth
Perfectionism is not a problem in itself. If someone holds high standards for themselves, that is their prerogative. However, if they impose those high standards...
12.092024September 12, 2024
What Works for Me
If you don’t like what your partner is saying or how they are saying it, many individuals criticize their partner or tell them what they...
03.092024June 24, 2024
Peace, Love, and Understanding
I was working with Wendy and her husband on issues in their marriage when Wendy talked about what she needed from her marriage, “Peace, love,...
25.062024June 24, 2024
Being Seen & Heard
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage CounselingTags Infidelity, Loneliness, Priorities
While marriage counseling with Todd and Deb initially focused on Deb’s infidelity, they gradually widened the lens to work on their marriage. Deb spoke of...
12.062024April 25, 2024
Neutrality
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Couples Counseling, Neutrality
If a couple is seeking counseling, one essential quality to look for in a couple’s therapist is neutrality. That is, neither partner feels that the...
05.062024April 25, 2024
Best Thing We’ve Ever Done
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Mental Abuse, Negativity, Resentment, Sarcasm, Withdrawal
Andrea and Mark have been married for four decades and report their relationship was sometimes “horrible.” Andrea resented being emotionally treated like a punching bag....
29.052024April 25, 2024
Master Healthy Communication
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Couples Counseling, Dismissive, Emotional Support
Rachel is looking for emotional support from her sometimes dismissive husband, Rob. Rob tended to say, “You’re fine,” when she shared something emotionally upsetting. She...
22.052024April 25, 2024
Parenting Policy
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Credibility, Parenting, Undermining, Unity
It’s important for couples with children to present a united front. However, how does this get reconciled when parents have different parenting approaches? The key...