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23.092020September 9, 2020
Culture Wars
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Anger, Cultures, Tone
When working with couples from different cultures, it is important to be sensitive to their cultural expectations of a relationship, but also help them to...
16.092020September 9, 2020
Confronting Faults
Sharon and Bob were feeling distressed about moving. When Sharon vented her stress, Bob thought her irritation was being directed toward him. Bob turned toward...
09.092020September 9, 2020
Essential Conversations
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Conflict, Couples Counseling, Escalation
Successful couples know how to discuss issues without escalating. If they do escalate, they may be able to repair conflict as it’s occurring. If not,...
01.072020September 9, 2020
Amend the Agreement
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Agreements, Communication, Priorities
Over the weekend, Jessica agreed that she would call the contractor on Monday. When Tony asked about it on Tuesday, he was upset that she...
24.062020September 9, 2020
From My Couch to Yours
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Escalation, telehealth, virtual counseling
During the pandemic, a number of couples doubted the efficacy of telehealth. Some couples who I saw pre-pandemic chose not to continue until we could...
15.052020September 9, 2020
Insight
Despite the amount of time they were at home with each other, Phil and Cynthia felt disconnected. Typically Cynthia expressed her disconnection, but in this...
06.052020September 9, 2020
Ritualizing Time
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Reconnect, Rituals
Michael and Eileen talked with each other in couples counseling about how to reconnect. They acknowledged that they weren’t eating meals with each other, despite...
29.042020September 9, 2020
Checking In
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Demands, Disconnected
Despite spending a lot of time together during the COVID-19 pandemic, Eileen and Michael were feeling disconnected. In fact, Eileen was worried about their trajectory—becoming...
22.042020September 9, 2020
We Can’t Afford It
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Disconnected, Dismissive, Finances
Jim and Caroline were talking about finances and Caroline expressed really wanting something. Jim said, “We can’t afford it” and the conversation shut down. The...