An individual expresses a perspective or memory, and their partner, says, “I disagree.” or even worse, “That’s not true.” These responses tends to be contentious, typically escalating or shutting down a conversation. This individual may now feel compelled to convince their partner of their perspective or memory, and can lead to arguing about whose perspective or memory is correct.

“I see it differently.” is a superior response to “I disagree.” This response respects the partner’s point of view or memory, but acknowledges that one has a different perspective or memory. The difference between saying, “I see it differently.” versus “I disagree.” may be subtle, but could be the difference between discussing and fighting.