During a couples counseling session, Jeff said to Ali, “I love you as you are.” Jeff was occasionally mean to her and sometimes disconnected, but...
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I’m Sorry
Apologies help heal conflict. There are different levels of apologies and each level described below becomes more effective. Level 1: “I’m sorry.” This is the...
Bring Your Stuff
I have a client who routinely shares with others that she’s in marriage counseling. She wants to break down the stigma of counseling by talking...
Who’s Right?
I was in the process of concluding marriage counseling work with a couple. When this couple first came to counseling, they struggled over small issues,...
Before it’s too Late
The couples most likely to succeed are imbued with trust. Individuals trust that their partner won’t hurt, neglect, or betray them. Last Monday, I had...
Leave the Jerk
When a person is struggling in their relationship, there is a tendency to talk to friends and family about the negative aspects of their partner....
Challenging Times
Bridget and Ed ended up in my office because Bridget had an affair. Ed was shocked because it seemed so out of character for Bridget....
A Problematic Thought
Justin and Anna were struggling over the weekend. Both have active professional lives, in addition to tending to their kids on the weekend. They struggled...
Baby on the Way
When Ali and Frank first came to couples counseling, they were contemplating marriage and children. Ali really wanted to be married and Frank was hesitant....
I’ve Changed!
Change is a crucial component of couples work. Couples counseling encourages partners to talk about what’s not working, so each person can change for the...