I have been working with Chuck and Alyson in couples counseling for about 9 months, and they talked about their lack of intimacy—no affection or...
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In couples counseling, couples primarily talk directly to each other. However, sometimes, an individual wants to express something to their partner but doesn’t know how...
Without Imposing
Derek and Janine were struggling in their relationship. Tension was high, and they were disconnected. We discussed how they could express their opinions without imposing...
I Want to Flee
One of my clients says their partner wants to address issues, and they want to flee. They become overwhelmed and don’t trust that they and...
Wellness Checks
As couples progress in counseling, it’s not unusual for them to have wellness checks. This is when they move from counseling every other week to...
Learning from Setbacks
All relationships have setbacks, whether from outside the relationship or within. The challenge is for couples to learn from these setbacks. Rather than defaulting to...
Lost in the Mundane
Rebecca and Michael came to me in crisis. Michael had an affair with a co-worker, and they wanted to work through it. Rebecca wanted to...
Talk to Me
Occasionally, I have couples who can’t talk directly to each other in couples counseling. Their patterns are so entrenched that they repeat the unhealthy dynamics...
Our Money
When couples discuss finances, individuals tend to react when a partner talks about “my” money rather than “our” money. Even when couples have the traditional...
Checking in is Partnership
John mowed the lawn, but Angela was upset with him. His actions impacted her plans for the day. She talked about the importance of John...