Andrea and Mark have been married for four decades and report their relationship was sometimes “horrible.” Andrea resented being emotionally treated like a punching bag....
Master Healthy Communication
Rachel is looking for emotional support from her sometimes dismissive husband, Rob. Rob tended to say, “You’re fine,” when she shared something emotionally upsetting. She...
Parenting Policy
It’s important for couples with children to present a united front. However, how does this get reconciled when parents have different parenting approaches? The key...
Parenting Techniques
Research shows that yelling is not an effective parenting approach. Two parenting techniques that can minimize yelling are whispering and hovering. Parents tend to yell...
Scorecards
Tasks in a relationship don’t have to be equal; they just need to be fair. Scorecards are used when a couple tries to prove they...
Needs & Impact
Erin and Jeff had two young children and were frequently in conflict. Now a stay-at-home mother, Erin expected Jeff to know what she needed. For...
Have the Conversation
Last night, I watched a movie, Hope Gap, about a husband who had withdrawn from his wife.Her constant criticism of him led him to retreat....
No Recourse to Clarity
I was now meeting with Paul and Jessica every 3 months and in their last session, Paul was reflecting on what they were doing differently....
Profound Simplicity
If you want to be a better person, there is no better place to work on this than in your relationship. Every day, you can...
Formula for Success
When Alyssa feels unimportant, she gets angry, but her husband, Dave, experiences her anger as an attack. Instead, now she will tell Dave that she’s...