In my first session with Pete and Diane I asked about previous couples counseling experiences. I like to learn what worked previously and what wasn’t...
28.072015August 18, 2015
Respect and Appreciation
Will and Sharon were fighting in the car. Will was willing to take over a project that Sharon was struggling with, but Sharon wasn’t ready...
21.072015August 18, 2015
I Never Met Anyone Like You
I was having another difficult session with Cheryl and John. Their issues were complex and difficulties longstanding. Then John shockingly said, “I never met anyone...
14.072015August 18, 2015
Feedback Loops
One goal in couples counseling is to have respectful conversations about relationship issues that need to be addressed. If a couple escalates with each other,...
07.072015August 18, 2015
Suspicion
Donna came to me deciding whether to continue her marriage. She was very unhappy the last few years and suspected that her husband Chris was...
01.072015August 18, 2015
Affairs
Affairs can destroy marriages. Marriages can sometimes endure one affair, assuming the affair is dealt with effectively, but marriages rarely survive more than one affair....
24.062015August 18, 2015
Bulldozing and Stonewalling
April wants to adopt a child and Dan is reluctant. April was bulldozing—pushing her position — and Dan was stonewalling—digging in and shutting down. The...
19.062015August 18, 2015
The Dinner Plate
Tom works long hours. When he gets home late at night, he’s exhausted, as is his wife Alicia. Alicia is managing their four kids— transporting...
08.062015August 18, 2015
The Face Cloth
Tom was talking about something that was important to him and Ally asked about a face cloth. Tom was offended that she interrupted him. They...
04.062015August 18, 2015
The Gift
Ally wondered what birthday presents to buy for Billy, her partner Tom’s son, whose ten year old birthday was in a few months. She often...