Demands can also initiate escalation. Adults don’t like to be told what to do, how to do it, the right way to do it, or...
23.032017January 17, 2017
Zero To One Hundred—Part 1
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Attacks, Escalation, Withdrawal
Escalation often begins with an attack. Regardless of how strong someone’s self-esteem is, individuals don’t want to be attacked. When someone is attacked, the tendency...
16.032017January 17, 2017
The Power of Negativity
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Attacks, Disconnected, Escalation, Looping, Negativity
Research shows that negativity is twenty times more powerful than positivity. It’s hard to be positive and emotionally close with a partner when negativity and...
09.032017January 17, 2017
Don’t Fight
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Differences, Escalation
Couples are always going to have differences. It’s the nature of relationships. Individuals have varying backgrounds, values, needs and desires. The problem is not that...
02.032017January 17, 2017
23.022017January 17, 2017
I Appreciate
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Language, Respect
Being respectful is one of the most important concepts for couples to implement. When expressing oneself to a partner, it’s crucial that its done respectfully...
16.022017January 17, 2017
Committed?
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Commitment, Disconnected, Status Quo
A marriage vow is a lifetime commitment that two individuals make to each other. Unmarried couples also commit to each other when they pledge monogamy,...
09.022017January 17, 2017
Honestly – Part 2
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Accountability, Dishonesty, Honesty, Infidelity
Individuals committed to complete honesty makes them more accountable for their behaviors. People don’t want to share uncomfortable or embarrassing behaviors, therefore they are more...
02.022017January 17, 2017
Honestly – Part 1
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Honesty, Mistrust
The importance of honesty is sometimes assumed but needs to be talked about explicitly. For successful couples, honesty is at the core of their relationship....
26.012017January 17, 2017
Couples Deserve To Succeed—Part 2
If a couple starts a conversation with a negative statement (a harsh startup), the likelihood of responding negatively (the second statement) is 94%. Therefore the...