Leah and Robert were on a road trip when Robert started slowing down on the highway, and Leah said, “What’s wrong with you?” Robert heard...
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24.012024December 15, 2023
Heating Up
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags personalities, Reactivity
Some folks are microwaves—they heat up quickly but cool off quickly. Others are ovens—they gradually heat up but need time to cool down. These personality...
25.102023September 13, 2023
Working on Yourself
Caitlyn and Alex have been together a decade and a half, but now they hardly talk to each other. They both want to save the...
18.102023September 13, 2023
Triggers
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage CounselingTags Communication, Perceptions, Reactivity, Triggers
Trigger words are language that unintentionally evokes a negative reaction in a partner. These words are typically unique to the couple and occasionally go across...
11.102023September 12, 2023
Working on Themselves
Sheri and Ed were really struggling. They initially made progress in couples counseling but were having a setback. Early in the work, they were working...
13.092023September 12, 2023
Recipe for Disaster
This was the third stint of couples counseling for Rob and Amy. I often felt Rob didn’t want to be in couples counseling but felt...
08.032023February 13, 2023
Reactivity
Mike is a passionate guy. He’s also emotional. When he reacts to something, he’s intense. His partner Laura is different. She is sensitive, thoughtful, and...
01.052019April 3, 2019
Conflict Averted
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Reactivity, Responsiveness, Skilled Comments
Kelly was sharing something personal and Thomas rolled his eyes. Typically Kelly would say something incendiary, Thomas would bark back, then they wouldn’t talk for...
19.122018December 13, 2018
Shattered Glass
Gayle and Tony were having a holiday party and Gayle pulled out the china and crystal. Tony accidentally broke one of the glasses and Gayle...
07.032018May 30, 2018
Reacting to Reactivity
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Escalation, Reactivity
When Brendan finished talking about a situation at work, his wife Marianne started to share a story about the neighbors. Brendan was exhausted and talked...