A husband and wife were driving to the store to purchase a new washer. Their current washer was leaking water on the tile floor. Knowing...
25.032020September 9, 2020
Archive for tag: Feedback
04.032020February 3, 2020
Dr. Rein Wouldn’t Approve
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Repairs
I started working with Carol and Jack four months ago. Despite being married three decades, they were separated when I started working with them. They...
15.012020September 9, 2019
Repairs
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Repairs, Responses
Dr. John Gottman’s research demonstrates the importance of not attacking or being defensive. This can prevent conflict from occurring in the first place. However, when...
04.122019September 5, 2019
It Takes Two
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Dissatisifactions, Feedback, Mean, Needs
Rob and Allison were high school sweethearts. Now in their early thirties, they were struggling for quite some time. Allison was spending a lot of...
01.052019April 3, 2019
Conflict Averted
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Reactivity, Responsiveness, Skilled Comments
Kelly was sharing something personal and Thomas rolled his eyes. Typically Kelly would say something incendiary, Thomas would bark back, then they wouldn’t talk for...
04.072018December 4, 2018
Playing Mozart
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Counseling Process, Feedback
After my first information gathering session with Kelly and Ted, I had them read a manual that I routinely give to couples. This manual describes...
01.112017April 25, 2018
Symbols
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Priority, Responses, Symbols
Without saying anything, Jim walked away from dinner with the family to watch the game. In our couples counseling session, Patty felt safe enough to...
11.102017April 25, 2018
Deliberate Practice
In my couples counseling practice, couples spend almost the entire session talking directly to each other, typically discussing the most difficult issues in their relationship....
06.102016October 11, 2016
Constructive Criticism
There is no such thing as constructive criticism. In relationships criticism is actually destructive. If one is critical in a relationship, the individual is putting...
21.042016March 29, 2016
I Didn’t Know
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Accusations, Communication, Disconnected, Feedback, Feedback Loop, Listening
Liz and Joe came to marriage counseling to address a number of issues. Their most pressing issue was a friendship that Liz developed two years...