Tasks in a relationship don’t have to be equal; they just need to be fair. Scorecards are used when a couple tries to prove they are doing more in a relationship. The couple symbolically writes out all the tasks they do to prove they are doing more. 

If someone feels they are doing more, the issue for the couple is rebalancing the tasks. Couples typically rebalance tasks when there are big changes in their life circumstances, e.g., having a child, unemployment, or promotions. These are times when a couple needs to adjust who is doing what.

The trigger for task rebalancing is the perception of unfairness, not the individual tasks recorded on a figurative scorecard. The focus should be on achieving a fair distribution of tasks, not on proving who does more.