Heather came to couples counseling to either repair their relationship or end it. Her husband of thirty years, Jay, recently erupted and verbally attacked her, and Heather had enough. They couldn’t discuss issues without Jay being verbally abusive, and Jay’s words were eroding the relationship.

In our couples counseling, Jay quickly learned the communication skills that successful couples use and applied these skills in between our sessions. After a handful of sessions, Heather said their relationship was going pretty well, including restoring intimacy. When I asked Jay what he was doing differently, he said, “My verbal behavior had to be rewired.” Well, Heather was quite pleased that he was rewiring his brain.