“You’re too sensitive!” or “You’re insensitive!” are both accusatory statements. The recipient is likely to react or withdraw. Every individual falls somewhere along the continuum...
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22.082018December 4, 2018
You Have to Work at it
I was recently reading the book Barking Up the Wrong Tree, and came across a fascinating study. The research compared love marriages—couples that marry because...
15.082018December 4, 2018
No Filter
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Filtering, Respect
A client recently shared with me that when she’s with her husband, “I don’t want to filter what I say.” She wants to “be herself”...
01.082018December 4, 2018
Connected Conversations
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Connecting, Emotional Connection, Responses
Kim was longing to feel emotionally connected to Sam again, so I was coaching Sam how to be more emotionally responsive to Kim. They were...
25.072018December 4, 2018
A Piece of Work
Ed’s mother was a piece of work. She was visiting from across the country and staying an extended period of time. She had a history...
18.072018December 4, 2018
What I Meant to Say
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Conversation Stoppers, Repeat Conversations
It’s not unusual for a couple to be talking about a previous conversation and a partner remembers the discussion differently. The tendency is for the...
11.072018December 4, 2018
Security Code
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Dismissiveness, Sensitivity, Symbols
April and John are strongly attracted and feel a deep sense of love for each other. Despite this connection, an issue emerged that was troublesome....
04.072018December 4, 2018
Playing Mozart
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Counseling Process, Feedback
After my first information gathering session with Kelly and Ted, I had them read a manual that I routinely give to couples. This manual describes...
27.062018December 4, 2018
But I Mowed the Lawn
Jake was on the West Coast between work meetings when Kristin called. She was panicked, thinking she was having a miscarriage. When he came home, despite...
20.062018May 30, 2018
Words are Revealing
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Language, Past Tense, Present Tense
A husband noticed that his wife talked about their relationship in the past tense and this panicked him. He had a reason to be concerned....