Rebecca and Michael came to me in crisis. Michael had an affair with a co-worker, and they wanted to work through it. Rebecca wanted to know what caused it. Their discussions led us to a better understanding.

They primarily lost themselves in their roles. Michael’s work absorbed him, and Rebecca was committed to her role as the kids’ primary caretaker. She described it as getting lost in the mundane.

Although their relationship had become stale previous to the infidelity, a spark had returned. Rebecca’s concern was keeping the connection. They were enjoying their time together, and their conversations had deepened. They were now building the skills to recognize and discuss disconnection if it reoccurred.