Sometimes, couples are unsure when to bring up an issue and when to let it go. A good guideline is to consider talking about something when it comes up internally twice. However, when something bothers you a third time, discuss it with your partner. It’s your psyche letting you know that something needs to be addressed.

If something bothers you about your partner or relationship, sit with it. See if it’s a passing feeling. If it comes up again, you are gnawing on it to examine if it’s a pattern or theme that needs to be addressed. If it comes up for a third time, it’s probably worth addressing.