When Alyssa feels unimportant, she gets angry, but her husband, Dave, experiences her anger as an attack. Instead, now she will tell Dave that she’s feeling unimportant. Dave doesn’t want her to feel that way, so he’s determined to have her feel differently.

Alyssa will now use the feeling of anger to express herself, instead of lashing out. If she can do this consistently, the couple can transform a detrimental pattern into a healthy pattern. Alyssa’s discovery is creating a formula for success.