It’s important to express oneself rather than persuade your partner to your point of view. Persuasion is more like a debate, in which an individual attempts to win an argument.

I have worked with couples in which one partner has a debating style. This person often grew up in a family that frequently debated.

When someone wins, the relationship loses. Persuasion is the use of force to insist that your perspective or solution is correct, and it can sometimes be coercive. Express your point of view, allow your partner to do the same, and discover what works for both of you.