Tara and Reed were not in a good place for quite some time. They lost the ability to resolve conflict and grew quite distant. Eventually,...
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Risk
It’s interesting to look at relationships as having levels of risk. Relationships with low risk aren’t threatened by disbanding. Some couples come to couples counseling...
Growth
Individual counseling isn’t the only place to work on yourself. Couples counseling provides similar opportunities. What’s different is that you are working on issues your...
Locking In
When couples make progress in couples counseling, one or both partners may question the viability of the changes. The goal of couples counseling is to...
Best Behavior
I recently started seeing Greg and Cara in couples counseling and was talking with Cara’s individual therapist. The therapist reported that Cara was concerned about...
I Disagree
During my information-gathering session with Katie and Mike, they shared an interaction in which Mike gave his point of view, and Katie said, “I disagree!”...
Maintenance
Sometimes couples can move quickly through couples counseling. It’s not rare for committed young couples, and it’s currently occurring for a couple in their seventies. ...
Breaking the Status Quo
The work in couples counseling is to break the status quo. Couples in counseling are typically distressed and unhappy; if they stay that way, many...
When a Hug is Just a Hug
Sharon isn’t feeling very intimate these days. Initially, in couples counseling, her relationship with Dan wasn’t great, so she wasn’t feeling much emotional intimacy. As...
Learning from Conflict
When couples have conflict in between sessions, I want them to bring these interactions back to couples counseling. When successful couples have conflict, they can...