“I love you but I’m not in love with you” is a familiar refrain in couples counseling. This comment can create anxiety for a partner...
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23.032022February 2, 2022
Turning Point
Couples counseling primarily provides real time feedback to couples when they are communicating in session. Their newly learned skills eventually slip into their communication between...
16.032022February 2, 2022
At Fault Again
Ann and Jeff were sitting down for dinner when Jeff took a call from his father. His father was dealing with an urgent situation and...
09.032022February 2, 2022
Turning a Corner
Jeff and Diane were in trouble. Diane was questioning whether to continue the marriage. Jeff was critical and she had enough. In couples counseling we...
02.032022February 2, 2022
Desperation to Joy
I’ve been meeting with Kirsten and Adam in couples counseling for a few months now. As they are progressing, Kirsten shared that they have moved...
23.022022February 2, 2022
My Better Half
When I ask couples what they find attractive about each other, I love the occasional response, he or she makes me a better person. Let’s...
16.022022January 28, 2022
No Big Deal
One of the comments couples can make is “It’s no big deal.” I find men more likely to make this comment than women. The problem...
09.022022February 2, 2022
Staying in Love
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples TherapyTags Contempt, Criticism, Defensiveness, Four Horsemen, Respect, Responsiveness, Stonewalling
When you meet the right person, falling in love is easy. Almost all committed relationships have the experience of falling in love. This other worldly...
02.022022February 2, 2022
Bestie
When I ask couples what’s attractive about their partner, I occasionally get the answer, he or she is my best friend. What characterizes best friends...
26.012022January 25, 2022
Forgiveness
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage CounselingTags Change, Disconnected, Dismissive, Forgiveness
I’m currently working separately with two couples in which the husband mistreated the wife. With one couple, the husband tended to be critical and dogmatic....