The importance of honesty is sometimes assumed but needs to be talked about explicitly. For successful couples, honesty is at the core of their relationship....
26.012017January 17, 2017
Couples Deserve To Succeed—Part 2
If a couple starts a conversation with a negative statement (a harsh startup), the likelihood of responding negatively (the second statement) is 94%. Therefore the...
19.012017January 17, 2017
Couples Deserve To Succeed—Part 1
I watched my niece radiate as she and her husband-to-be were making their wedding vows. The groom talked about noticing my niece from the moment...
03.112016January 17, 2017
Looping
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Relationship CounselingTags Escalation, Expressing Love, Looping, Repeat Conversations
Escalation is the primary reason for relationship distress. It occurs when individuals attack their partner and partners attack back. However, there’s another process that’s problematic...
27.102016January 17, 2017
I Want a Divorce
In our couples counseling session, Jackie complained that during a fight, Will threatened to leave the relationship. Threats can occur when a couple escalates. Threats...
20.102016October 11, 2016
How Affairs Begin
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Affair, Detachment
Julie and Dave came to me after Julie’s affair was discovered. Individuals who have affairs are not typically looking for an affair partner. The relationship...
13.102016October 11, 2016
Don’t Call Me Names
Tim complained that Beth thought he was lazy. Anne complained that Doug inferred she was stupid. Nick didn’t like being called an a** hole. Keri...
06.102016October 11, 2016
Constructive Criticism
There is no such thing as constructive criticism. In relationships criticism is actually destructive. If one is critical in a relationship, the individual is putting...
29.092016October 11, 2016
Choose Well
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags personalities
Problems are inevitable in relationships. The problems individuals deal with in their relationship depend on who they marry or commit to. Partners have unique personalities,...
08.092016July 21, 2016
The Circuit Breaker
When couples begin couples counseling, I encourage them to address the most difficult issues in the counseling sessions. As couples progress, the issues become more...