I was recently at a presentation by the Samaritans on suicide prevention. They said their volunteers are taught not to ask “why” questions, saying that...
12.062019September 19, 2024
05.062019April 3, 2019
No More Fighting
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Counseling Process, Fear
I met Christina and Brad for their first session and gathered information about their relationship. In our second meeting, we were planning to work on...
29.052019April 3, 2019
Railroaded
Todd and Casey were building an addition to their house. Todd was content with the house as it was, but Casey insisted they needed an...
22.052019April 3, 2019
Parenting Dilemma
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Expression, Guilt
Tim attended a couples counseling session by himself because his wife Debbie was staying home with their sick 9 year old son Bobby. The parents...
15.052019April 3, 2019
Overcoming Toxicity
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Disconnected, Toxicity
Colin and Lauren had an awful relationship. Lauren initially described her relationship as toxic. She said it was unhealthy, dysfunctional, and included screaming and swearing....
08.052019April 3, 2019
Intimate Conversations
Ron and Betsy were struggling. Now in their sixties, sex was a central issue in their relationship. Betsy wanted to restore their sex life. She...
01.052019April 3, 2019
Conflict Averted
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Relationship CounselingTags Feedback, Reactivity, Responsiveness, Skilled Comments
Kelly was sharing something personal and Thomas rolled his eyes. Typically Kelly would say something incendiary, Thomas would bark back, then they wouldn’t talk for...
24.042019April 3, 2019
I Love You!
Bob complained about Judy’s talking to him from another room. Since his hearing was declining as he aged, he needed Judy to talk to him...
17.042019April 3, 2019
I Love You As You Are
During a couples counseling session, Jeff said to Ali, “I love you as you are.” Jeff was occasionally mean to her and sometimes disconnected, but...
10.042019October 25, 2022
I’m Sorry
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Relationship Counseling, UncategorizedTags Apologies, Conflict, Remorse, Responsibility
Apologies help heal conflict. There are different levels of apologies and each level described below becomes more effective. Level 1: “I’m sorry.” This is the...