As couples progress in counseling, it’s not unusual for them to have wellness checks. This is when they move from counseling every other week to...
25.022025January 13, 2025
Trickled Truth
Caroline had an encounter with a co-worker and disclosed it to her partner. Weeks later, she shared that it wasn’t an encounter but an ongoing...
18.022025January 13, 2025
Learning from Setbacks
All relationships have setbacks, whether from outside the relationship or within. The challenge is for couples to learn from these setbacks. Rather than defaulting to...
11.022025January 13, 2025
Lost in the Mundane
Rebecca and Michael came to me in crisis. Michael had an affair with a co-worker, and they wanted to work through it. Rebecca wanted to...
04.022025January 13, 2025
Talk to Me
Occasionally, I have couples who can’t talk directly to each other in couples counseling. Their patterns are so entrenched that they repeat the unhealthy dynamics...
28.012025January 13, 2025
Our Money
When couples discuss finances, individuals tend to react when a partner talks about “my” money rather than “our” money. Even when couples have the traditional...
21.012025January 13, 2025
Checking in is Partnership
John mowed the lawn, but Angela was upset with him. His actions impacted her plans for the day. She talked about the importance of John...
14.012025November 13, 2024
Don’t React, Respond
Rachel and Jake had been married for decades and began couples therapy when Rachel thought about leaving. Jake didn’t treat her well, and she was...
07.012025November 13, 2024
Gnawing
Sometimes, couples are unsure when to bring up an issue and when to let it go. A good guideline is to consider talking about something...
17.122024November 13, 2024
Shoulds Are Coulds
Shoulds are problematic in couples counseling. When someone thinks their partner should do or say something, it imposes an expectation on the partner. Shoulds have...